Difficult guests.

We would of course in an ideal world like to think that all our friends and family are focussed on is our blissful happy state and for just this one day, our wedding day, they’d play along and be perfect.

This is not always the case - not on the day and not before hand during the planning. Here are a few things to consider with planning and difficult friends and family members.

* Extended family can usually be managed easily and just told what they're options are, however you may find some demand a room at the hotel because they are from so far away, or simply because they feel they should have one; the best way to get around this is to find a scapegoat. “The hotel is fully booked” “guests booked quicker and before you and so no rooms remain, I am sorry”.

* Bridal party / groomsmen can prove difficult - give examples - I have seen on so many occasions friends fall out over hen dos, dresses, differing opinions in life and love and religion. I have experienced Brodesmaids not fit in to their dresses and be asked to pay for the larger size, I have watched Brodes have meltdowns when their MOH has got pregnant. last minute guests dropping out (after you have paid for their space/food/ seat in the ceremony) - best way to handle is to not stress and TRY to eliminate as much as possible... like you would in day to day life. Don’t let the wedding get bigger than you. Be true to yourself and your guests.

* Guests with children - make this a treat for them "coming away without them" make it appealing. Add a sweetener. Make it easy. Not everyone will want to leave their children or have childcare, which is fine. You will need to male a decision on whether you put your foot down on children coming or not and consider how you might handle that with the parents?